He Died For Our Children

This page is brought to you by the Men’s Rights Movement as a tribute to FRA-MRA Thomas James Ball.
February 21, 1953 to June 15, 2011

Thomas Ball’s immolation, he died for your children.


On Friday June 15, 2011, the world became aware of a man who after years of being brutalized by the family court system, decided to share his pain and outrage with the world, with the intent of shining a bright light on the ongoing feminist corruption and the systematic destruction of human beings by a corrupt court system.

The man’s name was Thomas James Ball. He doused himself in gasoline then self immolated on the steps of a family courthouse in New Hampshire. Mr. Ball chose to use his own agonizing death to focus public attention on the corruption of the family courts.  The mainstream media has no interest in human suffering, when it belongs to a man, and before just now, you have probably never heard of him.

In understanding this story, we must first ask ourselves -- How much personal agony, how many years of pain does a human have to endure before death by self immolation seems like a rational choice?

And yes, I will stand on the word rational here. Mr. Ball wrote a detailed account of his experience in the family court system, as well as a summary of his research, and his consequent deep understanding of the scope and depth of corruption driving the institution of the family courts. His letter, (and in MP3 format), is linked in the menu of this site – and I strongly recommend you read it. Its long, but its not rambling – and anybody who calls it rambling is doing so to discredit and belittle this man, and to distract you from the very real pain produced in the lives of millions by a corrupt court system.

Thomas James Ball, born 2/21/53 and his wife at the time, Karen Louise Ball (maiden name Primiano), born 3/2/65 had begun divorce proceedings about a decade ago. It was alleged that Ball had committed domestic violence against his 4 year old daughter at the time, Melissa. Karen had called Monadnock Family Services after the incident and was allegedly told that if she did not report the incident to police, that she would be arrested for child abuse. She called Jaffrey PD out of fear of what the government people would do to her family (steal her kids if they were both arrested) and because of their mandatory arrest policy in domestic violence cases, Thomas was arrested. He was found not guilty of simple assault in Cheshire Superior Court, despite slapping his daughter and causing bleeding.

The Jaffrey PD apparently admitted that pressing forward as a domestic violence case was a mistake. His wife's testimony shows he did not have a history of violence. Thomas figured he'd get to see his kids again after the not guilty. He figured wrong. The court continued to press for counseling at Monadnock Family Services (MFS) prior to allowing Thomas unsupervised visits with his kids. Of course, this is a huge racket for MFS, who likely is paid for every one of the cases they are sent by the court, either by the people involved or by the state of NH.

Thomas claimed Monadnock Family Services misinformed Karen when she was told that she better call the police or she'd be arrested for child abuse. He outlines the history of the case in question in his lawsuit against MFS from 2006. Here's the PDF of his claims. The court dismissed the case against MFS primarily on a statute of limitations technicality.

Thomas, odyssey with Cheshire superior court's "justice" system stretched for an entire decade of his life, and despite making child support payments and having unsupervised visitation with his young son, he was unable to have unsupervised visitation with his two daughters, not because he was considered a danger, but because he refused to attend counseling as ordered by the court. Why did he refuse? Because the location of the counseling was to be Monadnock Family Services, the very same agency that he believed was responsible for escalating the situation and intimidating Karen Ball into calling the police in the first place. He wanted the decision on unsupervised visits to be made by the court, but the court kept passing the buck to MFS, therefore he did not participate, as he felt the case worker had a vendetta against him, as she allegedly refused to meet with him until he changed his attitude..

In 2009 he lost his job and was unable to continue making child support payments. As a result, Karen filed for a hearing on contempt of court, which the court scheduled for 6/24, next Friday. You can download Karen's motion for a contempt hearing here in PDF form. In it, she alleges that Thomas owes thousands in back child support and attorney's fees and demands the court sentence him to jail until he can pay the amounts demanded.

Of course, one might wonder how a jobless man could pay anything to child support behind bars, and perhaps Thomas was wondering how that might be possible as well. Facing an indefinite jail sentence, during which the amount “owed” would continue to grow, he chose to end his life in the hopes that someone would pay attention to the plight of families destroyed by this horrible system that is supposedly there to protect us. (Of course the truth is, they protect and serve themselves, not us.) He had tried the legal route, filing lawsuits to no avail. He tried to protest, joining the Fatherhood Coalition and picketing courthouses and the state house. Nothing worked.

Thomas James Ball was a man pushed to the brink by an inhumane system enforced by people who act like they have no empathy and are “just doing their jobs”. Thomas had his own issues with which to deal, but by all evidence, and even according to the state, he was NOT a domestic abuser, despite losing control with his daughter, which was clearly the wrong thing to do. Had the people calling themselves the state never gotten involved, maybe his family would still be together.

He wrote a full and detailed description of his life and the events that would lead him to these final days called "My Story" that can also be found here on this site. We encourage anyone who dares reflect on his actions or his self immolation to read it, first!.

On June 15 around 5:30 pm, a 58-year-old New Hampshire father of three, self-immolated in front of the Cheshire County Court House. Ball was pronounced dead at the scene.

Before he died, he sent a letter to The Keene Sentinel to explain his actions. The full text of the letter, his Last Statement, can be found here.


Men are:
76% of homicide victims - DOJ
80% of Suicide victims - CDC
Suicide took the lives of 30,622 people in 2001 (CDC 2004).
Suicide is the eighth leading cause of death for all U.S. men.
24,672 suicide deaths reported among men in 2001. Source

"Suicide ranks 11th among causes of death in the US, with 30,622 completed suicides in 2001. It is the 3rd leading cause of death among people 15 to 24 yr. Men ≥ 75 yr have the highest rate of death by suicide. Among all age groups, male deaths by suicide outnumber female deaths by 4:1." Source:

"The other most common suicide victims are divorced and/or estranged fathers like Tom Ball and Derrick Miller. In fact, a divorced father is ten times more likely to commit suicide than a divorced mother, and three times more likely to commit suicide than a married father. Source


"Tom was an energetic leader for more than three years of the Worcester chapter of The Fatherhood Coalition and served on the statewide leadership board. In this moment of grief we ask everyone new and old to fatherhood causes to come together in solidarity."

" Apparently the old general was right. Death is not the worst of evil "-TB

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